Kerry Arquette
Details
My mission is to be a loving, understanding, strong and steady presence for the dying and their families. I help demystify the dying process while comforting and supporting those involved. Working with my clients and their loved ones, I endeavor to make the time before, during, and after passing rich and meaningful, while celebrating a unique life and soul. I consider compassion, maturity, humor, and a nurturing presence the most important tools of my trade and never enter a client’s space without them.
My services include, but not limited to the following:
- A warm, comforting, and respectful presence that mediates fear of both the known and unknown
- Assistance preparing for the practical and psychological/emotional aspects of dying
- Guided meditation for relief of stress and discomfort
- Assistance related to family communications surrounding the impending death
- Help preparing final letters, completing albums, journaling, and creating legacy projects such as works of art, music, or text that will represent the dying and remind the living of the presence, personality, and spirit of the deceased
- Organization of essential papers and other materials
- Sitting vigil.
- Aiding with living funerals and post-death rites
- Catering intimate family reception gatherings (30 people or less.)
Speakers Bureau
Kerry Arquette is an experienced speaker well known for her ability to craft talks for a wide range of audiences. She has been featured at the National Mensa Convention, on national podcasts, and for students in high school through university. Kerry, a certified death doula, holds a M.S. in Criminology. She looks for opportunities to talk about the work of end-of-life midwives, and a process of systematically preparing for death emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Kerry also lectures on the history of dying and death in America—a history that culminated in the creation of death doulas.
As a criminologist, Kerry explores the subject of dying while incarcerated, and how death doulas might play a role in easing the passing for the convicted who die without family support. Finally, Kerry believes death—the elephant in the middle of the dining room table—should be talked about. She mediates organic group discussions on death and dying. Kerry’s talks have been called “compelling, informative, and life-changing.”
Latest Posts
The Sounds of Dying: MUSIC! 
Terminal respiratory secretions, also colloquially known as “the death rattle,” are the noisy breath sounds that occur when someone who is close to death is unable to clear the saliva and mucous secretions that collect at the back of the throat. Once the swallowing reflex is gone, the death rattle becomes a common sign that death is imminent.Not What I Thought It Would Be 
My end-of-life doula training was, I believe, comprehensive and thorough. I was taught all about holding space, talking about sensitive subjects, bedside comfort care, and sitting vigil. I was instructed on legacy projects, providing family respite, and educating both family and the client about aspects—from the legal to what to expect when death is eminent.Walking the Camino 
It was a matter of taking just one step at a time but, over the course of more than four weeks, there were hundreds of thousands of them. I was walking the Camino de Santiago from the eastern border of Spain across the country to Santiago de Compostella. The Camino, also known as The Way, has been walked by pilgrims for hundreds of years.The D-Word…DEAD 
The D-Word...DEADKerry ArquetteCEOLC Secretary & Co-Founder | End of Life Midwife | Certified by The Conscious Dying Institute, Denver HospicePassed away. Passed on. Is deceased.
Die? What FOR? 
Die? What FOR?Kerry ArquetteCEOLC Secretary & Co-Founder | End of Life Midwife | Certified by The Conscious Dying Institute, Denver HospiceThink about it…from the time we are born we are taught to see life as a series of lily pads.
Denver area Fairplay & surrounding Colorado United States
